Ah, the spectacle of modern romance. Where the battlefield has transformed into a virtual colosseum, and every girl now thinks herself a valiant gladiatress in this new age of romantic commoditization among a twilight of potential suitors. Welcome, it’s time we approach this new post-‘social media age’ with vigilance. In the midst of this fairly new digital dance, every man must now realize that women have not hesitated to find new ways to exercise and expand their dating options in the ever-evolving theater of human connection.

The challenge of modernity, is to become artists of the self, painfully sculpting the soul onto our bodies, crafting our own narratives and breathing life into our connections against the onslaught of the collective ‘modernity’.

In the labyrinthine realm of social media, where connections are but a click away, we must remember, our women of this generation are all too human, and are not immune to the siren song of temptation.‍I dated a “modern” women for a couple of months.  She mentioned her discomfort with my use of tinder, which I had exclusive use of it during my time on the toilet. It would have been a fairly reasonable point of concern if we were indeed exclusive.

For one look at her social media conveyed a completely single young lady, marketing herself as fully available, and had no intention in cutting down any male attention and connections.  You can imagine my annoyance. Our culture teaches women such poor values, and there seems to be very little enthusiasm for traditional positive women archetypes in our day. In their absence, the digital landscape becomes yet another unguided arena for the feminine spirit of romance and connection to traverse. In the era of likes, emoji reactions, hearting each others posts, constant messages, women often find themselves the recipients of adoration and admiration.  All in plain site. Why is it that we assume women are immune to temptation on these platforms? ‍

The rush of attention women always yearn for can lead to this dark side of social media. It may offer an escape from the mundane and the familiar, an escape hatch -if you will. Women, seeking excitement and novelty, are able to receive all the validation they desire. Where a digital exchange that may begin innocuously can easily, gradually evolve into something more intimate and profound, blurring the boundaries of emotional fidelity.  Here a woman may deftly weave a complex web of connections, keeping her options open, right in front of her partner. Her options, like an alluring array of sirens, beckon from the digital sea, promising both novelty and complexity. No one man can compete with the abundance of male attention freely offered on the platform.

The modern woman, in her quest to keep options open, dances between authenticity and artifice, crafting her online persona for all to see. The constant exposure to options can lead to a dissonance in a genuine connection, where the heart longs for depth amid the shallows of swipes.  The digital age has given birth to a new form of romantic existentialism. In the shadows of swipes and the glow of screens, the answers may remain elusive, but the quest for understanding, the will to explore the human condition, endures.‍The modern man, standing on the precipice of the digital abyss, must confront a paradoxical truth – that while women have gained unprecedented agency in the realm of social media, men too must redefine their roles in the dance of desire. In the age of digital dualities, us men must gaze inward and scrutinize our own desires and intentions. To navigate this ever-changing landscape, we must discern between authenticity and superficiality, between meaningful connection and empty conquest.

Men must foster open and honest dialogues with their romantic interests. In the era of screens, the authenticity of human connection can be obscured. To counter the allure of superficial interactions, men must strive for deeper, genuine conversations that transcend the digital veil. In the digital realm men must cultivate a sense of discipline, resisting the siren call of endless options. We are now called to engage with more authenticity on these platforms, we must be discerning and stern with our standards for a relationship. I speak to you, men of god, men of the future.  Rise, we must set the example for our women, embracing the complexities of modern romance with courage and self-awareness, navigating the digital currents with intention and integrity.Social media is a dating app.  Modern women, have newfound agency and autonomy in matters of dating. Their choices are myriad, their desires paramount. Modern women are normalizing polygamy in our culture, while liberating in some aspects, this will is becoming the new norm. The traditional, religious  based movements are now counter cultural. In this pursuit of love and human connection, personal agency and societal harmony.

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Addendum 2025

I thought about this after a year and I recognized this is simply the reality of the situation. As men, there is literally nothing you can do about the myriad of options women have. It is quite literally absurd how easily replaceable you are. The only thing you can ever do is truly continue to focus on yourself and build yourself up. Recognize the situation, but never -ever, dwell on this.

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